I do think some degree of marriage prep is important. At first, I thought we'd just follow some formula. We'd find a therapist, we'd go to counseling, we'd get a little certificate, we'd live happily ever after. But the more I researched it, the more I realized that really wasn't for us. Mr. Lion is a very private person, and I had a hard time imagining him opening up to a stranger!
As with many of our wedding projects, we chose to go the DIY route. We started to look at books on premarital counseling, when we stumbled upon this:
Sure, the title was a little daunting, but you know what they say about judging a book by its cover. We flipped through it to find that it was straightforward, not too religious, and interactive. It was actually part of a set that included two workbooks, one for each of us. It seemed like a good fit for us. I really liked the fact that it included workbooks, because it allowed us to sort through our answers individually and privately. Then, we could discuss it together after collecting out thoughts. Best of all, we could work through it at our own pace.
At first, it seemed like it would be a bit of a chore. But I have to say, we've really enjoyed it! The "questions" we're supposed to ask are things we pretty much know the answers to. We've been on the same page with everything, and we're pretty much aware of each others' morals and values. However, it doesn't stop with talking about what you believe. It goes into why you believe those things. It's been interesting to dig a little deeper and figure out how our beliefs will come into play in our marriage, and eventually, how they'll affect raising a family.
Are you and your significant other doing premarital counseling? What do you think so far?
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